By Renee Pullman

Your wife has filed for divorce (women do this 2 to 1 over men). Now she seems to want everything that matters to you and a huge chunk of everything you might earn in the future. This is where a lot of men get upset and afraid. This is a shock and awe technique that her attorney has learned at the sleaze school of divorce.

Do women win these kinds of settlements? You bet they do. The man gets hit with this sort of thing and gets stupid. He does some dumb things, she gets a restraining order and he is put out of his house. He looks bad in the eyes of the judge and perhaps even to his own attorney.

The guy is there grieving over lost love and now gets hit over the head. Maybe he’ll start drinking more, get depressed, or any of a number of self-destructive behaviors that all work to her advantage. All of it hurts him.

1. She does not love you
2. She does not really care what happens to you
3. She is out for herself
4. She wants you as her personal ongoing income source

To be honest most divorces are much more civil, but this kind of thing goes on and there are many sob stories out on the net of just this kind of thing. Whether it happens all the time or not, the lessons are there that apply to everyone.

The fact is she will not have your interests at heart anymore; she is rightly out for herself. The same should be true for you and you need to get on this thing and work it to your advantage. This means learning the ins and outs of divorce and how you can use this information to your advantage, for example: when you hire a divorce attorney.

Do you know the questions to ask when you are shopping for an attorney? Do you know enough about the process to help plan an effective divorce strategy – and more important, do you know enough to manage the attorney and manage your case? This is one area where men run into problems. They try to outsource the whole divorce and while you might want to let someone handle it and hope the whole thing goes away, it is a poor strategy.

You can get stuck with thousands of dollars in extras if you don’t stay on top of things and understand it all as it goes down.

Divorce for men doesn’t have to be the go to court and lose strategy that many men seem to use. You really can win this thing. Just click the link or go directly to http://www.ForMenDivorce.com.

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By Renee Pullman

Many couples are able to work out most of the details of their divorce on their own and even though they may have lawyers they will save a lot of money because of it. Here is the rub: maybe you have this thing worked out between you and you are getting a budget divorce. Your attorney may not be paying as much attention as you would hope. A divorce “surprise’ might enter in to the picture. Consider this story which was inspired by real events:

Les And His Big Divorce Surprise

Teresa and Les signed their dissolution agreement and went on their separate ways. Teresa did very well with a nice maintenance agreement and Les quit claimed the house to her.

Two years go by and some months ago Les made his last payment to Teresa. He is now a free man. Les had married Marsha along the way and at last they can move from the apartment they were living in and into a house.

They found a nice place which is now within their budget and they made an offer to buy and had their offer accepted.

Now its Halloween 2009: Les answers the phone and the mortgage broker asks Les why he did not report his other mortgage and why it is in arrears.

Teresa had not been so good on the payments since her maintenance checks from Les had ended and now the old marital house is about to go into foreclosure.

Les had quit claimed the house to her and he thought he was done with it, surprise! Although Les had given up his interest in the house, he failed to realize that he could not give up his interest in the mortgage, the bank was not party to the divorce settlement and still holds him liable for the mortgage.

Not only had Les made a poor settlement with Teresa but now he has to pay again. No new home for Les and his new wife, and his Ex has screwed him once again.

What Other Surprises May Lurk In My Divorce?

There are many surprises and traps possible in any legal proceeding – like Les’s surprise or like thinking that you are getting a tax write off for the kids but failing to realize that if the agreement is not done right you may just have primed up yourself for yet another divorce surprise. The list goes on, you really do need to learn the processes of divorce if you expect to get the best settlement and win your divorce.

You can take the surprises out; you can understand the process and where the potential problems are. This way you will work better with your attorney and avoid the divorce surprises and traps that are out there.

Avoid Divorce Surprises

Divorce for men means learning all of the tactics and strategies that will give you the insider information to avoid surprises and come out of divorce court without losing everything. Learn what it takes to win your divorce.

http://www.Squidoo.com/DivorceForMen is all about divorce for men – tactics, strategy, and how to keep your money, your kids, and your stuff.

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