Mens Issues

By Renee Pullman

Do you remember that old Neil Diamond/Barbara Streisand love song, “You Don’t Send Me Flowers Anymore?” It is all about a love relationship that wasn’t maintained. It is a common pattern with couples and so their love ebbs and flows until one day, it is just gone. The relationship at this point can probably be resurrected unless someone else enters the picture and picks up you or your partner.

It is an old story, you are with someone for a long time and the passion has gone. Has your love grown cold? Is passion and sex gone from your relationship? While not an unusual condition it holds danger for the relationship, it also takes away happiness and meaning from the individuals in the relationship.

The intensity of love in any relationship increases and decreases and couples must realize that this is a natural condition. Danger comes when the relationship is in a down cycle and perhaps another person comes into the picture and attracts the eye of one of the partners. Temptation at the wrong time can easily lead to an affair and a break up.

The new person introduces danger and fun that turns on the endorphin tap in the brain. Brain chemicals overtake our about to stray partner and the relationship is toast. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Just like your car will break down if you don’t maintain it, so too your relationship – the two of you need to be taking care of each other. Spend time with each other, go back and do the things that you did when you met, things that were fun and that brought you together. Is it dressing up and going out, camping, fishing, sports, dancing? Whatever those things are find a way to do them on a regular basis.

How about a surprise, a gift, or a card? These sound a little mundane but as the toll of everyday life bares in those kinds of gestures can have a meaning and an effect beyond what might seem rational. The thing is you want to keep them regular and random at the same time. Sending flowers on a certain day every week will lose its effects – but if you do it randomly enough to keep the surprise element in then they will work every time.

Often during the ebb times sex disappears. Sex is another key part to maintaining a relationship. Sexless marriages are common today and it is tragic, you and your partner could give each other so much joy through sex. Is your partner not initiating or refusing sex with you, or is it you who has put on the damper? This is something that needs attention: discuss it in an understanding and loving manor, address any physical issues with your doctor, get counseling if you need to but get this important element back into your relationship.

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